Hello my beloved readers,
Presenting the last trend as well as look of the year and furthermore decade is more than a perfect occasion to launch my manual about family this time as the second manual so far under shade in shade in Liz Malraux Couture
Nearly two years have passed ever since I have launched my first manual-article in the (new) concept of Fall4Me-blogging. So it is neither a usual nor a regular thing. Basically a manual by FallMe comes into use when my patience about a topic has reached its limits which means that I get to hear, watch or experience too much about one and the same nonsense (and even the exceptions that confirm the rule cannot make it up) and need to spread my word and thoughts on into a wider audience and get them fixed somewhere. As with the first manual it may be argued about whether the mindset of “nowadays’ youth” (funny is it not? I talk about my fellows but I consider them youth) is nonsense or not and God knows I do not want to be superior in my own opinion but as social scientist I do see sense and meaning in developments as they have taken place.
What is Family?
Family, Familie, famille, familia, … a word with Latin origin famulus that is translated as the totality servants means to define according to social sciences the long-term relationship by partnership, marriage, birth, adoption et cetera and is in the first place a concept containing (ideally) two legal guardians and at least one child. Furthermore a family is characteristic for sharing one household or for relations. Following the roots of the word familiar it can be sensed that family is connected to trust as well. By the same time family is a matter of blood and not. This as common scientific definition of the term.
The Different Types of Family
But according to my own experiences and observations and many others’ of yours as well the meaning of family has extended. Like this with the people as continual part of our life we feel like having more than just our elemental family:
- our work-family
- our community-family
- our friends as family
- the family we get to marry.
People we have regular contact with, work with, share things with, rely on and on the whole are connected with.
Talking about the last one many of you who are going to actually read this article know about my fate as well as experiences but let me tell you that this and the feelings connected has nothing to do with this manual or my way of thinking.
“The youth of today (aged U30) wants to be treated like adults, thinks of them to be adults (…) the end last one obviously seems like nothing more than an extended children’s room…”
A Matter of Generations?
Let me say it straight out: The youth of today (aged U30) wants to be treated like adults, thinks of them to be adults having graduated school, having a job, eventually a relationship and an own home but in the end last one obviously seems like nothing more than an extended children’s room (thank you for this term AW even though it was completely inappropriate towards me) if you…
- have the urge to continuously run to the family you were born in and
- live for yourself and only yourself not having the desire to found you own one but
- if you have founded your own one feel the urge to… see number one and last but not least
- your partner does not join or worse
- you do not even feel your partner necessary by your side.
Are you willing to realize how much is sounding wrong or at least not right here? The other way round a family that is demanding all the time covering it into the innocent “I would be happy if…” is not less egoistic here to let its child develop to a butterfly. The holy Bible already says that you children have to leave your parental home one day and found your own family or less religious, do you not want to give your children what your parents had given you once?
Values of a Family
Why are we taking aim to make non-blood-relative fellows our family? Because if you call someone your family it means the highest, strongest and most precious relationship and often we meet people in our life we could not be gifted with them as our actual family therefore friends are the family of our choice (huge thanks for these golden words my dearest family DG!) especially when we with our (extended) family experience frustration. Besides from the relation, trust and the love family is more than that. Family is respect, understanding, selflessness, support and freedom. But family is as well critical regard and standing for each family member from time to time if you want them all to be a part of your family. In connection to that you do not need to see each member of your family all the time again and again at the same time because one day you will be the head or the manager of your own family therefore we alternately have the modern and comfortable ways of communication that make up the lacking opportunity to see each other but at the same time no side should blackmail the other side with sanction if it is not necessary. Family is not about serious punishments or intrigues, not even about (long) asking for forgiveness because a real family argues in one minute and makes up at the other without further aftermaths. If you thankfully stick to all of this taking and giving your regular interaction will come on its very own but remember you have to let go of what you love for it to come back again and again because family is not a duty-date twice a year on birthdays and Christmas but should be all over the year and shown this way.
In this video you can watch the whole event of the LMC fashion show SS 2020 – along with a little making-of – where I had presented my outfit officially for the first time on the no-age-models’ catwalk of Liz Malraux Couture. You can watch out little family at 00:39 and my walk at 41:19. If You take a close look at the left side of the front row you can see me at the top of the catwalk taking my own pictures for the article of the show. Film made by the talented and super-kind daughter of Liz Malraux Anastasja Black ♥ well done! If you are on Vimeo follow lizmalraux.
My Look in Details
- Fascinator, dress and handbag by Liz Malraux Couture
- Stud earrings “CC” by Chanel
- Lipstick by MAC cosmetics
- Watch by Tommy Hilfiger
- Bracelet by Dr. Pierre Ricaud
- Mary-Janes by
Huge thanks to my dear fashion-mom Liz Malraux for dedicating her time and kindness to me and dressing me ♥
Huge thanks to my trusted friend Anna Chojnowska for capturing me in this outfit at its best ♥
Huge thanks to the Hotel Grand Élysée for the beautiful location